Friday, April 19, 2019

The End of Singleton

For now, the end of singleton to me means I am unofficially off the market . Haha. It becomes official only when there's a wedding band on my finger. But currently am gonna commit to making this relationship work. No matter how high the odds are against us.

I love you, I love you not.

You can say that for years now, I've been avoiding many guys who shows even a little interest in me. Especially those who keep dropping subtle hints of getting me to be their girlfriend or worse, wife.

I recall this guy from my office who kept asking me to go out and watch movies with him. And every-time he does that, I'd politely refuse while giving some lame but acceptable excuse. Months later, the girl who finally did accompany him to the movies later became his wife. Haha.

Then there was this other guy who I met during a compulsory course (to gain confirmation on my government post) who was actively looking for a wife and hinted at getting a wife from Sabah. I got spooked because I was the only Sabahan at the course. I hurriedly introduced him to another girl from the office and they got married months later. Nice move, right?

There are many other instances that have put me in awkward situations. Not gonna mention the married guys who shamelessly asked me to be their second wives. Which is definitely a big NO-NO. And nearing 40 years old (OK am not that old, but not keen to reveal my age online anyhow), I almost gave up in finding myself a soul mate and felt contented with my #foreveralone and #loner status... until just recently.

Who is he?

The one I will never reveal his face... or who he is.

The one who among the guys I've avoided in the past for giving subtle hints.

He came back again, unexpected, unplanned, during the time my heart was wide open...... with a second attempt in getting me to accept him. This time I wavered and eventually accepted him.

So it is true when people say, what's meant to be yours will come back to you. The truth is, when the timing's right, what’s meant to be ours will come - the people, the opportunities, the jobs, the hope. When Allah knows the right time that we're are prepared to accept and use His blessings, things will come in place.  So don't fight it, don't rush it and don't get stressed over it. Just simply let go, to make room, to trust, in order to enable what's ours to find us. :)

I am not sure if this one person is truly my soulmate. What I know now is that I am willing to commit and work for it. I hardly know him... but love can always come later. Haha.

Hope to blog more... adiosssssssss..


Anis Azalea said... [Reply]

Happy for you Jard. Umur 35 baru kawen pun ok je *in my case la.

RaW said... [Reply]

Oooohhhh ni yg pernah ajak tunang/nikah tu ke? Yg ada kat Indonesia sekarang ni eh? (Kalau salah, maaf ya, bf Jard yg baru, lol!) Apa2pun, am happy for you!

Ruggedmom said... [Reply]

Tahniah Jard! I'm happy for you 😘. Hope my daughter pun tak kahwin awal sangat hehe..

Bro Framestone said... [Reply]

Moga dipermudahkan urusan mu ;)

Kay said... [Reply]

Wow lama blog tak berupdate tiba2 cerita kawen!

Tahniah Jard, semoga dipermudahkan urusan kalian hingga ke jinjang pelamin, dan terus bercinta sampai syurga. Aamin

Jard The Great said... [Reply]

@ anis.. am over 35 btw. hahahaha

@ raw ... thanks raw.. praying the best for you too. never too late you know. tinggal pilih je in your case. banyak calon hahahaa

@ ruugedmom ... amboi.. kalau jodoh cepat apa salahnya haha

@ bro framestone.. aminnnnnnn :)

@ kay.. terima kasih atas doanya.. insyaAllah. AMIN!

thatsofarah said... [Reply]

Jard, super big move! Whatever it is, go for it and I'm happy for you.

Henry Lee said... [Reply]

Beribu-ribu tahniah! Happy for u :)

Mohd Nasri said... [Reply]

Just found out that you are finally (hopefully) meet your partner in crime. Known you since blogging is at their peak in Malaysia (around 2010-2012 maybe?). Little bit surprise that you are still blogging using JARDNESS name. Haha.

My blog still here but I just private it for memorial purpose. :P
Hopefully he is your truly jodoh and happily ever after.

Thank you.